Why Education and Understanding are Critical
A separation is just as much of a change for children as it is for their parents. In order to ease the transition for the child, a strong understanding must be developed between all parties as to why the separation is occurring and how to continue forward.
How to Ease the Transition
Although parents may have different styles of parenting, consistency is very important for children travelling between houses. Ensuring that schedules, disciplinary tactics, medical decisions, and educational development are as consistent as possible between two homes will help to reduce the confusion and anxiety they may be feeling.
What the Child Needs to Know
Children will be looking for reasons as to why these changes are occurring. It is important that parents try to vocalize to their children that they are loved. It is also important to vocalize that the separation is not the fault of the child, but rather a decision the parents made together.
At the time of separation, a child may also feel as though they are not allowed to speak because they are not an adult. Telling a child their voice will be heard and their questions will be answered can alleviate any stress the child may be supressing. Furthermore, it is important that the child knows they are supported by both parents and that they will collaborate as much as possible to provide for the child.
In order to create consistency, having an outlined schedule is beneficial. Mediation can assist in the organizing of these schedules. Implementing sleep itineraries, after school activities, and school pickup arrangements can bring stability to the child’s daily life. Even agreeing on how long a child should be doing homework or how long they are allowed to watch television can greatly affect the movement from one house to the other.
Summer Day Camp: Between the months of June and August, a day camp will be available to register children in. The camp will focus on giving children a healthy and creative outlet for their emotions. It will also offer counselling options for children, teach them how to properly communicate their emotions, and give them positive coping mechanisms.
Fall program: (6 weeks) Similar to the camp in the summertime, the fall program will aim to assist children through their family issues. It will focus on giving children a healthy and creative outlet for their emotions. It will also offer counselling options for children, teach them how to properly communicate their emotions, and give them positive coping mechanisms. Since it is a program starting in December it will begin at 4 p.m. so as to not interfere with school hours.
Parenting After Separation Program: The Separation and Divorce program helps people dealing with family breakdown. The program does not provide lawyers or legal services. It is recommended that everyone involved in a family law matter consult with a lawyer. If you do not have a lawyer, you may choose to contact Legal Aid Saskatchewan or the Family Law Information Centre at 306-787-5837 or toll free at 1-888-218-2822.
Family Matters: The Family Matters program aims to minimize the impact of separation and divorce on all family members – especially children – by providing:
- information and resources to deal with a changing family situation; and
- assistance to resolve urgent and outstanding issues.
To use this program, please contact us directly to discuss your situation with an Intake Worker.
- call 1-844-863-3408 or;
- email firstname.lastname@example.org
Please note that the Family Matters Program does not provide legal advice.